Thursday, September 24, 2009

Russian women marrying for money

Marrying for financial and social security is being practiced since the beginning of time. It’s nothing new. Strong changed its meaning through the centuries but the idea is still there. Today, strong men are those who have money or a good position in politics, business and women still go for them.

What does it have to do with russian-american or russian western european marriages? See all these young russian women getting married to older western guys from America, UK, Germany, Italy, Spain, France. Is it because of love? Most of the time, it is. but sometimes, love has nothing to do in this marriage.

Sometimes you see a couple an old western guy with a very young russian wife, but who knows what if they both get what they expect from their relationship; a man gets companionship and a woman gets relief from financial constraints, if they stay faithful and nice to each other, if they both consider this picture perfect, why do we judge?

We do because we know that cultural differences between couples in intercultural marriage are difficult enough to deal with even if there is the presence of love so how to deal with all those problems when there is no love present. Both persons will always feel that they are being used by the other and therefore, they will not be truly happy.

But still some russian young women do it and some old guys agree to this arrangement. A man fears to be alone for the rest of his life, a woman puts aside love and hopes it will somehow get better later, while now she gets stability.

Looking at them from the outside, one can say that this relationship is shallow, but we know that only the person himself can defined his happiness and for the people who marry for something other than love, their happiness could be defined by the other benefits. For them, it could still be a perfect picture.